The way this commonly asked question is worded tells us a lot about the culture we live in today. We are action-oriented and usually want to know several action steps that we can take in order to solve our problems. The idea of patiently thinking or talking about a given problem seems almost ridiculous and certainly a waste of time. But truly meaningful, significant change has to begin from within and changing from within requires a shift in perspective (a paradigm shift). This in turn usually happens only after contemplating an issue for awhile and after talking to caring others and feeling the strength of their support.